WHAT HAPPENED TO THE BLACK FAMILY?
It's a fact that blacks were more likely than whites to be married before 1960. Even through demoralizing and harsh treatment, they endured for many decades, black couples chose marriage and stayed married through thick and thin. Divorce was uncommon. This was when black love was at its strongest.
But what happened to change this positive statistic?
Even though blacks had much less than their counterparts, this was a common sight before the 1960s
The black American family of yesteryear
In 1965, Daniel Patrick Moynihan who was a noted sociologist predicted catastrophe for the black family after the Civil Rights movement. His report, which was entitled The Negro Family: The Case For National Action (known as the Moynihan Report made black leaders angry because of the negativity in the report. They accused Moynihan of racism and stereotyping.
Daniel Patrick Moynihan
Influential whites also attacked his report as useless that ignored centuries of mistreatment to black citizens.
But in retrospect, this study hit the nail right on the head, and sadly many of his predictions came true. The Negro Family: The Case For National Action
Moynihan's report had focused on the roots of black poverty in the United States and controversially concluded that the high rate of families headed by single mothers would significantly hinder the progress of blacks toward economic and political equality. Moynihan felt these problems existed because of structural elements rather than cultural.
There were more African slaves transported to Brazil than to America and even though conditions were extremely harsh for these Africans, it was much worse for the American slaves. Ask a Brazilian where he is from, and he will tell you I'm from Brazil and I happen to be black. Ask the same question to an African American, and he will be more likely to say I'm a black man who happens to live in America.
This is because, in Brazil, the slave had many more rights than in the United States: he could legally marry, he could indeed have to, be baptized and become a member of the Catholic Church, his family could not be broken up for sale, and he had many days on which he could either rest or earn money to buy his freedom. The Government encouraged manumission, and the freedom of infants could often be purchased for a small sum at the baptismal font. In short: the Brazilian slave knew he was a man, and that he differed in degree, not in kind, from his master.
In contrast, the black American slave was entirely removed from the protection of organized society. He was ignorant of and completely cut off from his past, and he was offered absolutely no hope for the future. His children could be sold, and his marriage was not recognized, his wife could be violated or sold, and he could also be subject, without redress, to frightful barbarities. The slave could not, by law, be taught to read or write; he could not practice any religion without the permission of his master, and could never meet with his fellows, for religious or any other purposes, except in the presence of a white; and finally, if a master wished to free him, every legal obstacle was used to thwart such action. This type of cruel slavery only existed in America in the complete history of man.
Whites didn't understand the terrible mental effect this had on blacks.
Moynihan went on to say; "It is more difficult, however, for whites to perceive the effect that three centuries of exploitation have had on the fabric of Negro society itself. Here the consequences of the historical injustices done to black Americans are silent and hidden from view. But here is where the actual injury has occurred, unless this damage is repaired, all the effort to end discrimination and poverty and injustice will come to little."
"That the Negro American has survived at all is extraordinary—a lesser people might just have died out, as indeed others have … But it may not be supposed that the Negro American community has not paid a fearful price for the incredible mistreatment to which it has been subjected over the past three centuries."
But wait, there's more! What did Moynihan say about the Jim Crow period?
"After emancipation the Negro was given liberty, but not equality. Life remained hazardous and marginal. Of the greatest importance, the black male, particularly in the South, became an object of intense hostility, an attitude unquestionably based in some measure of fear. The Negro man who was most humiliated thereby; the male was more likely to use public facilities, which rapidly became segregated once the process began. Keeping the Negro "in his place" can be translated as keeping the Negro male in his place: the female was not a threat to anyone."
During both slavery and Jim Crow, whites were successful in emasculating the black male by challenging his manhood. But credit must be given to him because he stuck with his family even in a hostile environment. Divorce was uncommon. In those days a black man couldn't even look a white person in the eyes without being looked upon as a threat which would result in being beaten and possibly killed. The black male would learn to know his limits when dealing with whites.
: to make (a man) feel less masculine: to deprive (a man) of his male strength, role, etc.
: to make (something) weaker or less effective
: to enfeeble, debilitate, erode, undermine, cripple
Typical organized schemes by hateful white people to emasculate the black man.
Jim Crow period.
Omaha daily bee. (Omaha [Neb.]), 09 March 1913. Chronicling America: Historic American Newspapers. Lib. of Congress.
Emasculating the black male is one reason black men were referred to as BOY by white people. It became a cruel mental tool used by whites.
Know what's the saddest part?
Many black men started to believe they were boys and acted that way. They didn't think it was possible for them to go to school to get educated and fight back, but instead of setting good examples for future black males they chose to hang out on the corners, running game, chasing different women and mistreating the woman they had at home. These boys got played big time by white people, and continue to do so today.
After the 1960s Civil Rights movement, many black males became likes birds who had been caged for many years and when the door was opened refused to fly away. Strong black women had to manage on their own without the intimidated male in their lives, and in the process lost a little of her precious feminine softness. But one thing is for sure; she has carried our race and done a fantastic job and refused to put up with the boy like behavior of some black men.
Lyn Collins telling black men, You better think
During 1960s many black males made terrible life choices and for one reason or another forsook their roles as fathers that hurt the black family. They felt it was more important to satisfy themselves with selfish pleasure seeking, running game and treating the family as of secondary importance. This is when the divorce rate started to rise.
The family has always been the backbone in all cultures. White people enjoyed their families in Europe before arriving in America as immigrants. Black people enjoyed theirs in Africa but because of slavery became completely disconnected. Which was accomplished by evil design. White people knew if they kept the family apart it would hurt us as a race.
Black men considered it a badge of honor to get a woman pregnant and not provide for the kid. This became common for black children to live in broken homes. It may sound lame and corny to these black men, but marriage is the foundation for a good quality life and especially when kids are involved. We need to give our children a fighting chance in the world that won't show one ounce of mercy by chewing them up and spitting them out for being unprepared.
If it were possible to listen from the graves, our beautiful ancestors would say;
"This is what we suffered for, so you people could waste your lives away with bad decisions" Y'all need to pick yourself up, show some common sense and live honorably and always remember where you came. That's your anchor. You are descendants from some of the finest and strongest stock known to humanity. What was done to us would have killed off a weaker people."
There are still many blacks and probably black men especially who feel it's acting white or not cool to pick up a book to better themselves. This is because we associate learning and education with trying to act white, and when others in our group attempt to do this we hate on them with jealousy and clown them with acting white. This is where a lot of black males get confused. If you believe that crap, you are destined to fail.
Think of all the beautiful and successful black women who are just waiting for us to snap out of our childish games and become real men. It's not lame or corny to say that school and books are among the world's most powerful weapons in the world. It can change lives; it will change yours. Don't worry about your friends hating and laughing at you. You will find them in a few years pushing a shopping cart around town.
Don't let people (black or white) play you and designate your life into a dead end street. Make your family proud and someone they admire. You take complete control of yourself and set the example. But you have to do it with the intelligence that everyone knows you possess. You must believe that.
America belongs to you. Get your piece, all compliments of our amazing ancestors.