WHAT HAPPENED TO THE BLACK FAMILY?
It's a fact that blacks were more likely than whites to be married before 1960. Even through demoralizing and harsh treatment, they suffered for many decades, black couples chose marriage and stayed married through thick and thin. Divorce was uncommon. This was when black love was at it's strongest. But what happened to change that statistic?
Even though blacks had much less than their counterparts, this was a common sight before the 1960s
The American Black family of yesteryear
Daniel Patrick Moynihan who was a popular sociologist predicted catastrophe for the black family after the Civil Rights movement. Many black leaders of those days disagreed and charged Moynihan with racism and stereotyping.
Daniel Patrick Moynihan
Influential whites also attacked his report as useless and ignored the centuries of mistreatment to black citizens in a total disregard for democracy and believed African-Americans were just rotten and lazy people without a place in America.
But one thing became clear, and that was Moynihan's report hit the nail right on the head. Many of his predictions came true and continued to do so even today.
The Negro Family: The Case For National Action
Moynihan's report which was entitled "The Negro Family: The Case For National Action" had focused on the deep roots of black poverty in the United States and controversially concluded that the high rate of families headed by single mothers would significantly hinder progress of blacks toward economic and political equality. Moynihan felt these problems existed because of structural elements rather than cultural.
Let's quickly recap how this whole mess began
in the first place and you decide.
In the 17th century, Europeans brought Africans over to serve as slaves in America. Because of their twisted beliefs in science and religion which taught that whites were superior aided them with a free conscious and they felt an obligation to dominate other members of the human race any way they saw fit.
During this period, American slavery had become much different from other countries. There were more African slaves transported to Brazil than to America and even though conditions were extremely harsh for these Africans, it was much worse for the American slaves. Here's an example.
In Brazil, the slave had many more rights than in the United States: he could legally marry, he could indeed have to, be baptized and become a member of the Catholic Church, his family could not be broken up for sale, and he had many days on which he could either rest or earn money to buy his freedom. The Government encouraged manumission, and the freedom of infants could often be purchased for a small sum at the baptismal font. In short: the Brazilian slave knew he was a man, and that he differed in degree, not in kind, from his master.
In contrast, the American slave was entirely removed from the protection of organized society. He was totally ignorant of and completely cut off from his past, and he was offered absolutely no hope for the future. His children could be sold, and his marriage was not recognized, his wife could be violated or sold, and he could also be subject, without redress, to frightful barbarities. The slave could not, by law, be taught to read or write; he could not practice any religion without the permission of his master, and could never meet with his fellows, for religious or any other purposes, except in the presence of a white; and finally, if a master wished to free him, every legal obstacle was used to thwart such action. This was not what slavery meant in the ancient world, in medieval and early modern Europe, or in Brazil and the West Indies.
Moynihan stated that whites didn't understand the terrible mental effect this had on blacks. (But it was more like they didn't care)
"It is more difficult, however, for whites to perceive the effect that three centuries of exploitation have had on the fabric of Negro society itself. Here the consequences of the historical injustices done to black Americans are silent and hidden from view. But here is where the actual injury has occurred, unless this damage is repaired, all the effort to end discrimination and poverty and injustice will come to little."
"That the Negro American has survived at all is extraordinary—a lesser people might just have died out, as indeed others have … But it may not be supposed that the Negro American community has not paid a fearful price for the incredible mistreatment to which it has been subjected over the past three centuries."
But wait, there's more!
After freedom from centuries of slavery, blacks encountered another round of oppression called Jim Crow, which were unconstitutional laws white people designed primarily for blacks to keep the two races separated. These rules worked very well and were an attack on the very purpose this country was founded. It was a complete breakdown of democracy which held the black family back from American inclusion and success but offered whites the opportunity to work together in building an exclusive white stronghold of wealth and prosperity that still stands today.
What did Daniel Moynihan say about the Jim Crow period.
"After emancipation the Negro was given liberty, but not equality. Life remained hazardous and marginal. Of the greatest importance, the Negro male, particularly in the South, became an object of intense hostility, an attitude unquestionably based in some measure of fear. The Negro man who was most humiliated thereby; the male was more likely to use public facilities, which rapidly became segregated once the process began. Keeping the Negro "in his place" can be translated as keeping the Negro male in his place: the female was not a threat to anyone."
During both slavery and Jim Crow, whites were successful in emasculating the black male by taking away his manhood which severely harmed the African-American family. In those days a black man couldn't even look a white person in the eyes without being looked upon as a threat which would result in being beaten and possibly killed. The black male would learn to know his limits when dealing with whites.
What's the meaning of emasculating?
: to make (a man) feel less masculine: to deprive (a man) of his male strength, role, etc.
: to make (something) weaker or less effective
: to enfeeble, debilitate, erode, undermine, cripple
By emasculating the black male is one reason they were always referred to as BOY by white people. It became a cruel mental tool whites used against black citizens. This was an organized scheme by most white people to inhibit his ability to lead his family as a man, and father figure his family could look up to with pride.
We say most white people because relatively few white citizens stood up for the sake of democracy to complain, but chose to live their comfy lives ignoring this important national issue. They were so selfish and greedy they didn't realize their non-actions were tearing away at the very fabric of what America was admired for around the world.
But white American citizens couldn't hide their lies of being one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all or being passionate lovers of democracy any longer. Technology would aid in exposing their offensive scheme. It wasn't until television became popular and the whole world could view how whites were treating its black citizens did things slowly start to change for the better. But it didn't modify the way white people honestly felt about blacks, and we must remember that.
Sadly, the most damaging part of this mistreatment by white citizens and government was the millions of black males who believed these lies and chose to live their entire lives like a boy by never maturing into adulthood or in becoming a man by providing for their families, taking care of business and setting the right example to make the next generation of blacks smarter and stronger.
They believed the lie and were played big time, and continue to be played to this very day.
Many black males became likes birds who had been caged for many years and when the door was left opened refused to fly away.
Strong black women had to manage on their own without the intimidated male in their lives, and in the process lost a little of her precious feminine softness. But one thing is for sure; she has carried our race and done a fantastic job.
Lyn Collins telling black men, You better think
So, does this mean that many black males today choose on their own to remain in an emasculated state?
Slavery and Jim Crow had broken the spirit of many black men similar to the way a cowboy rides a wild horse into submission. You would think that after Jim Crow was done away with, these men would have raced to the library and picked up a book to educate themselves helping their families out of the poverty and fight the power. But many did the complete opposite and neglected their responsibilities as fathers and husbands.
The family has always been the backbone in all cultures. White people enjoyed their family in Europe and America's beginning, black people enjoyed theirs in Africa but because of slavery became completely disconnected. Of course, now we know this was done by evil design. When blacks were allowed to marry, whites began to target the family head with injustices and the whole family unit suffered. This happened to the black males during Jim Crow and today with mass incarceration.
Just as Moynihan predicted, the black family slowly began to unravel.
When Moynihan wrote in 1965 on the coming destruction of the black family, the out-of-wedlock birthrate was 25% among blacks. In 1991, 68% of black children were born outside of marriage, and In 2011, it was a whopping 72% of black babies were born to unwed mothers.
This stat is the perfect example of a significant portion of the black male population who still suffers from the effects of being emasculated. Evidently, black men looked at getting women pregnant as a badge of honor, but will not remain to adequately raise the child, and weak black girls are allowing it to happen without the arrangement of marriage.
During 1960s many black males made terrible life choices and for one reason or another forsook their roles as fathers that hurt the black family. They felt it was more important to satisfy themselves with selfish pleasure seeking, running game and treating the family as of secondary importance. This is when the divorce rate started to rise.
It may sound lame and corny to these immature black people but marriage is the foundation for a good quality life and especially when kids are involved, because we need to give our children a fighting chance in the world that won't show one ounce of mercy by chewing them up and spitting them out for being unprepared.
Who suffers for the bad decisions of these people to make babies and not raise them properly?
Of course, the kid will suffer the most because more than likely won't be prepared to navigate this unforgiving, racist system in America and we all know the possible outcome where they'll end up homeless or another statistic of mass incarceration.
And also the whole community suffers because black people who refused to let racist people dictate their lives and fought back with intelligence by providing for their families and uplifting the community have to deal with these rotten and disrespectful offspring who regularly shame our people and are the ones the news cameras/media always seek out first to portray our amazing race.
If it were possible to watch their folly from the graves, our beautiful ancestors would be turning in them. They probably would say to themselves.
"This is what we suffered for, so you people could waste your lives away with bad decisions" Ya'll need to pick yourself up, show some common sense and live honorably and always remember where you came from because that's your anchor. You are descendants from some of the finest and strongest stock known to humanity. What was done to us would have killed off a weaker people." Preach on!!!!
There are still many blacks who feel it's acting white or not cool to pick up a book to read and better themselves. This is because we associate learning and education with trying to act white, and when others in our group attempt to do this we hate on them with jealousy and clown them with acting white. This is where a lot of black males get confused. If you believe that crap, you are destined to failure.
Think of all the beautiful and successful black women who are just waiting for us to snap out of our childish games and become real men. It's not lame or corny to say that school and books are among the world's most powerful weapons in the world. It can change lives; it will change yours. Don't worry about your friends hating and laughing at you. You will find them in a few years pushing a shopping cart around town.
But an extra word of caution. Dark skinned people around the world have been hated for many centuries. We not only have to struggle against this but also some of our people. These people have a big money making scheme similar to ones in power.
They rap, sing and talk to us about how bad we are treated without offering an educational blueprint to success and pocket our money in the process. But instead, they will show us images of their fancy cars, big houses, beautiful women and bling without giving back to the community by contributing and stressing education which will always be the sole answer for black success in America.
So. don't let people (black or white) play you and designate your life into a dead end street. Make your family proud and someone they admire. You take complete control of yourself and set the example. But you have to do it with the intelligence that everyone knows you possess. You must believe that. America belongs to you. Get your piece, all compliments of our amazing ancestors.